Kier , you’ve set a precedence for relevancy that is unmatched - thank you. With the title alone , validation of those traumatized is clear. Regarding the context - This is so applicable…. And so, is there a chance , that it extends into a case where the unresolved trauma of that person, now ends up spilling into their adult relationships , ie marriage? Where now, they are causing or have caused trauma to their significant other and will not hold themselves accountable ??
This was a refreshing read. For me, it is easier to accept that someone may not take upon the duty of accountability than it is for me to continuously check myself for craving their understanding, especially when this craving has been a part of your existence for so long. However, two things can exist at the same time which I assume is the reality of healing - the multifaceted nature of understanding and longing. I am so proud of us for trying!
My dad doesn't even recognize the role he plays in his own trauma, so it's a little easier not to take it personally. He's just unaccountable in general, it's not specific to me, or anyone else who may just so happen to fall in his path.
This really clearly puts into perspective some things I’ve been thinking about with my own personal trauma from my relationships with my parents. It’s also made me think harder about the trauma my children will/are experiencing as we go through a reconfiguration of our lives through divorce. I want to make sure that I remember to acknowledge their pain and reconcile for my part in it in ways that are meaningful.
Kier , you’ve set a precedence for relevancy that is unmatched - thank you. With the title alone , validation of those traumatized is clear. Regarding the context - This is so applicable…. And so, is there a chance , that it extends into a case where the unresolved trauma of that person, now ends up spilling into their adult relationships , ie marriage? Where now, they are causing or have caused trauma to their significant other and will not hold themselves accountable ??
This was a refreshing read. For me, it is easier to accept that someone may not take upon the duty of accountability than it is for me to continuously check myself for craving their understanding, especially when this craving has been a part of your existence for so long. However, two things can exist at the same time which I assume is the reality of healing - the multifaceted nature of understanding and longing. I am so proud of us for trying!
My dad doesn't even recognize the role he plays in his own trauma, so it's a little easier not to take it personally. He's just unaccountable in general, it's not specific to me, or anyone else who may just so happen to fall in his path.
I love this. Thanks for sharing.❤️
this has helped so much to read this, especially the part about breaking from ‘dependent healing’ wow. much love brother 🤘🏽💫
https://open.substack.com/pub/silhouetteofstrength/p/silhouette-of-strength?r=5c0me0&utm_medium=ios
My chest hurts, I wasn’t ready to read this 🥹❤️🩹
This really clearly puts into perspective some things I’ve been thinking about with my own personal trauma from my relationships with my parents. It’s also made me think harder about the trauma my children will/are experiencing as we go through a reconfiguration of our lives through divorce. I want to make sure that I remember to acknowledge their pain and reconcile for my part in it in ways that are meaningful.
I’m so glad I read this!
You are on Substack too?
Thank you for this Kier.
So so good. Thank you for this Kier
This timing was perfect. Thank you for putting this into words.